YOUR MARITAL HEALTH/FINDING OUT WHO’S THE MATTER WITH US: HOT SEXUALPROBLEMS – EJACULATORY URGENCY AND CONTRACTIVE URGENCY
EJACULATORY URGENCY: It gets like a fire drill. I can just feel like I am going to come and a bulldozer couldn’t stop it. I don’t care what I say or do, I am going to come.
HUSBAND
The ejaculation reflex is under much more control than men have learned, but running hot results in neurohormonal changes that diminish or prevent that control. Six hundred twenty-three of the thousand men reported the ejaculatory-urgency problem as characteristic of their sexual encounters, and again hyperarousal often accompanied this difficulty.
CONTRACTIVE URGENCY: I thought only men did this, I mean had this happen, or whatever. I just start to come. I get strong squeezing in my vagina. This happens mostly when he does oral love to me. I can’t hold back.
WIFE
Forty-six women reported this problem as typical of their sexual experience. Since the early perspectives of sexuality considered immediate, even out-of-control, sexual response in the woman to be desirable and a time and effort saver for the man, this problem has not been explored in prior sexual programs. I found in the couples now being treated that questions about such a problem lead to a higher percentage of reports than the 4.6 percent rate in the thousand couples included for this report.
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